Why confidence matters so much
Confidence is a vital component of social interactions in both our professional and personal lives.
Of course, it is well-known that confidence dictates how we feel about ourselves…
But many are unaware of how widespread the damage can be when it is significantly disrupted.
Societal Impacts of Disrupted Confidence
The Issues and How To Move Forward
Many are surprised to learn that confidence, like any skill, takes practice.
And, that after a long period of social isolation like we have all faced in recent times, our confidence skills (and therefore our behaviour) may be a little rusty.
I have heard of various problems some people are having in reintegrating into a more ‘normal’ way of life. Some of these appear to be related to confidence.
Wide-spread disruption has occurred
If you are like me, a singleton, then for the past 15 months, you may not have had to consider anyone else’s feelings to a high degree.
Interaction with others has been minimal. And when we do talk to other people on a Zoom screen, our attention may not have been fully focussed (certainly not without conscious effort).
Even if living in a family setting, you have undoubtedly experienced a significant reduction in your interaction and confidence practice.
Now, as we start going out again — entering environments with other unrelated people or into situations that could be considered crowded — we may have to work on our confidence levels.
Once again, we need to be aware of how we express ourselves (which is heavily dependent on our confidence) and mindful that our words and actions affect others.
What experience has taught me
Through the pandemic, my confidence levels have remained pretty static.
I believe this is because I have already been in a situation where I was so far removed from normal human interaction for an extended time that my confidence became inactive and plummeted to near zero. During my recovery after the crash, my confidence skillset wasn’t necessary, used, or tested.
When I eventually emerged to re-join society and work, re-boosting my confidence took effort, practice and testing.
And initially — a bit like to child learning right from wrong — what others saw in my behaviour was not always what was good for them (or me).
Something that helped me move forward was remembering that acting with overconfidence comes across as arrogant and overbearing. And conversely, acting with little or low confidence makes one appear weak and vulnerable.
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I admit there have been one or two occasions recently where I have had off days and not come across as well as I would normally. I attribute this to the isolation.
However, I’ve been quick to work on and rectify these occasions (to the point of addressing them immediately during the conversation). Understanding how much confidence matters for everyone moving forward, such course corrections are of paramount importance in my mind.
Restoring healthy confidence levels
As with physical exercise, becoming aware that you need to either boost or dial it back is the first step.
Then it’s a case of working on and consciously applying your confidence. And, of course, testing how others react to you when you exercise it.
Make adjustments where necessary and, just as with muscle memory, your confidence levels should start to equalise to the level where it helps you be the best version of yourself and benefits the people around you.
In turn, this will increase your feelings of self-esteem and worth.
One last thing... and then over to you
As I wrote some time ago, in seeking positive regard inwardly and outwardly, we can find empowerment — and linked inextricably to that empowerment is confidence.
I’d love to hear your thoughts on this incredibly important and timely topic. Drop them in the comments below and let’s continue this conversation…
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